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Robert Sternberg, an American psychologist, says that love in an interpersonal relationship has 3 basic components which are intimacy, passion and commitment. These three love components combine forming 7 types of different love. Which is your type?
Nonlove
This love only has intimacy. Between the individuals there is physique and emotional intimacy. Both parties feel a warm relationship but not with deep emotion or long commitment. You won’t feel objected when your best friend has to study or change job in another city right? In this love friendship there is no bond which force both party to be always together.
Infatuation
Often called love at the first sight. Love that struck the eye and pour down to the heart. When we see the object of love, there’s a passionate to be always together. Eventhough there is no intimacy built with the love object. Passion is the only component present in this love relationship. There’s no emotional intimacy inbetween. Which is why, Infatuation is easy come easy go.
Empty Love
In this love there’s only commitment. Many loves changed into an empty love with the passage of time. Relationship which was warm and passionante turned into an empty because intimacy component has bleached. But in a arranged marriage or relation what usually happened is the opposite. The couple starts with an empty love (forced intimacy) and as the time passed intimacy and passion were built up.
Romantic Love
Couple in this relationship looks happy together because there’s an intimacy. Besides that, a romantic couple also has deep passion unto one another. Which is why, this couple is called drunk in love. Eventhough, they are not always want to be together. In this relationship there’s no commitment because more often it limits the love’s pleasure itself.
Companionate Love
Can also be referred to as a loyal love. This type of love often present in marriage or a long term relationship. Usually the passion is gone but there’s still intimacy and strong commitment. In general, campanionate love is stronger than friendship love because there’s a commitment. Apart from marriage, companionate love can be found on strong bound between families.
Fatuous Love
Blind Love, named that way because it is formed only by passion and commitment. It looks big but there’s no intimacy that can stabilize the relationship. Blind love may cause negative effect because of the sense of owning and stranding the person. Proved by there’s no sense of trust between the couple.
Consummate Love
People call it the true love. This is the dream love. The most perfect with the presence of all components;intimacy;passion and commitment. The three components has tendency to make the relationship stabile. Commitment in this love is based on respect and passion of strong belonging. This what makes true love ever lasting comparing to other kind of love.
Whichever love you are having right now, hope you are happy doing it
