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Robert Sternberg, an American psychologist, says that love in an interpersonal relationship has 3 basic components which are intimacy, passion and commitment. These three love components combine forming 7 types of different love. Which is your type?

Nonlove
This love only has intimacy. Between the individuals there is physique and emotional intimacy. Both parties feel a warm relationship but not with deep emotion or long commitment. You won’t feel objected when your best friend has to study or change job in another city right? In this love friendship there is no bond which force both party to be always together.

Infatuation
Often called love at the first sight. Love that struck the eye and pour down to the heart. When we see the object of love, there’s a passionate to be always together. Eventhough there is no intimacy built with the love object. Passion is the only component present in this love relationship. There’s no emotional intimacy inbetween. Which is why, Infatuation is easy come easy go.

Empty Love
In this love there’s only commitment. Many loves changed into an empty love with the passage of time. Relationship which was warm and passionante turned into an empty because intimacy component has bleached. But in a arranged marriage or relation what usually happened is the opposite. The couple starts with an empty love (forced intimacy) and as the time passed intimacy and passion were built up.

Romantic Love
Couple in this relationship looks happy together because there’s an intimacy. Besides that, a romantic couple also has deep passion unto one another. Which is why, this couple is called drunk in love. Eventhough, they are not always want to be together. In this relationship there’s no commitment because more often it limits the love’s pleasure itself.

Companionate Love
Can also be referred to as a loyal love. This type of love often present in marriage or a long term relationship. Usually the passion is gone but there’s still intimacy and strong commitment. In general, campanionate love is stronger than friendship love because there’s a commitment. Apart from marriage, companionate love can be found on strong bound between families.

Fatuous Love
Blind Love, named that way because it is formed only by passion and commitment. It looks big but there’s no intimacy that can stabilize the relationship. Blind love may cause negative effect because of the sense of owning and stranding the person. Proved by there’s no sense of trust between the couple.

Consummate Love
People call it the true love. This is the dream love. The most perfect with the presence of all components;intimacy;passion and commitment. The three components has tendency to make the relationship stabile. Commitment in this love is based on respect and passion of strong belonging. This what makes true love ever lasting comparing to other kind of love.

Whichever love you are having right now, hope you are happy doing it

Amazing how console controller has evolved in 25 years. I got this image from likecool. Special thanks to Damien Lopez, the man behind these console controller arts. Somehow I feel nostalgic just by looking at them. Recalling how many hours spent during my school days sitting in front of the big tv tube with those controllers in my hands. With my mom scolding telling me to put them down and start my study.

These things are part of my life, somehow part of them is what shaped I am today (lazy, sitting doing nothing useful attitude). I used to think I am pretty good with gaming knowledge, recalling my gaming expereince from the NES era until now. But heck, seeing this image, I don’t even know what are Tandy, Tennis, ColecoVision and all those old stuffs, not sure if I was even born by that time. I guess Damien Lopez really did his research, or he really played all of those….

Do you often wonder if the time spent on commuting to office can be more productive? Certainly Microsoft China does. Microsoft executives just lost out on the most famous excuse for being late “Stuck in the Traffic Jam” So they provide office-equipped buses that ensure their employees start work on time.

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Surprisingly wisdom words can come from the most unexpected place. I never expect I could learn something over some little eavesdropping conversation between two aunties in a pasat (hokkien for wet market). Actually I am exaggerating, it’s a department store but it was crowded like a wet market. Anyway, one auntie is a seller, she was selling some expensive snacks, claiming the candies are product of excellence in taste and quality. The other auntie is an undecided buyer, not sure whether she should buy the nice looking snacks or save that money to buy something else. Here roughly how the conversation went on

Auntie Buyer : “Auntie, your snacks looks nice but it’s so expensive ler..”

Auntie Seller : “You have to try ler. You know life on earth is not long, you save money alot for what? Eventually you’ll die and you’ll regret for not trying things for life just because you want to save money. So if you can afford it, go grab it! You have to try things at lesat once in your life.”

In the end I don’t know if the auntie managed to sell her snacks as I was in a hurry and didn’t follow their conversation. Anyway, I am not sure whether the auntie really live her life in spend all must try attitude OR she simply say it to get customer buy her products and actually live a life of the totally opposite of what she’s saying LOLZ. Regardless of her intention, here is my thought. It’s true life is just a one time only, unless you believe in reincernation thingy in which I don’t There’s no turning time in life, no restarting if things got f-ed up, so generally human try to give in their best to avoid having regrets later on. But just let’s just not forget what are needs and what are wants. Frankly speaking I tend to understand what are my needs and sometimes trapped to get my wants, things that are not really necessary, unimportant. Well, thanks Auntie seller for the good reminder Hope you have a good business and I will be waiting for the next wisdom from you

I don’t know about you, but I think the wackiest country in the world is Japan. Recently a good friend of mine pass in this article from gaijintonic which shows some of the greatest love hotel theme in Japan. I suggest you read the interesting article if you have the time. I know hot linking is bad but here are some previews of the hotel

Apparently what makes these love hotels so appealing despite all the funky,weird, wacky theme to Japanese is simply because they want privacy. If I can quote from the article I mentioned article earlier “In Japan, people are often inexplicably content to live with their
parents until they’re about fifty, so they need a place to go if they
want to get down to some hanky panky without Mum strolling in with a
cup of tea.”

Enough talking for me, the article is really good, I suggest you spend 5 minutes reading it. If you happen to plan your trip in Japan, this love hotel finder might come handy

Happy Love making, friends~!

This billboard is an actual advertisement by Texas United. Thumbs up to the creative team behinds the ads who did wonderful job delivering the “Godly” message here. Although I am assuming this was created by Christian, I think some of the messages are relevant for other religions and beliefs that believe in God.

I don’t have the intention to elaborate more on the messages. So for your convenience, here are the messages shown here, in random order

Let’s meet at my house Sunday before the game – God

Will the road you are on get you to my place? – God

Have you read my #1 seller. There will be a test – God

We need to talk – God

What part of “Thou shall not” you didn’t understand – God

You think it’s hot here? – God

Need directions? – God

My way is the highway – God

Big bang theory? You’ve got to be kidding – God

Follow Me – God

I love you and you and you and you – God

That “Love thy neighbor” thing I really meant it – God

Tell the kids I love them – God

Don’t make me come down there – God

Let’s meet at my house Sunday before the game – God

Loved the wedding. Invite me to the marriage – God

Keep using my name in vain, I will let your rush hour longer – God

Come on over and bring the kids – God

Love making agency might be one of the oldest professionalism in the world after whoreism prostitution. When the era of “Siti Nurbaya” our great grandparents do it to our grandparents. Your grandparents might’ve done it with your mother and father and might happen to you too  Then it advances a bit, busybody friends recommend his or her friends, you may like it or not, but most of the time you are not. 

So after sometime you get fed up, you think these people obviously don’t know what are you seeking for. So you decided to give a match making agency. Infact you pay high premium for it, coz they guarantee money back if you don’t hook up with the choosen partner. It has become a good business, a way to make money which is just to facilitate between people to find their partner. In return, you pay premium membership for it.

By the way this post ain’t about match making agency. They are simply too many match making agency in this world. India has the most I guess, they really post “awesome” qualifications and expectations. There is no use for one more match making agency, there’s simply too much competition in there. 

So an idea came up to me, why not a Match Breaking Agency (MBA), a professional service which objective is to ensure relationship is terminated by enforcing our standards of termination in any ways. To put it simple, you go for match making agency when you are desperate to hitch, you go to us when you desperate to get away ditching your partner to the end of the world. Disconnect, terminate, breakup, divorce, you name it!

MBA tries to cater different types and needs of people. Don’t have the courage to breakup with your girlfriends face to face, we can compose a break-up sms for you. We have a nothing-to-do copy writers who are fantastic with choice of words. For example, “F**K OFF! I DON’T WANT YOU NO MORE! BUT IF YOU GIVE ME ONE MORE F*** I WILL CONSIDER ABOUT IT” 

Maybe sms is too cowardly for you, you prefer something bold, something that can leave deep impression to your partner. We provide that, we could make a scam call on your spouse day and night. Terrorizing her with words such as “YOU LAZY FAT ASS!” or put your bestest insults here. As we have 24/7 business policy whereby we have operatinal offices all around the world who work by shift, so don’t worry not having someone on standby to call all day long. Although they might speak weird English depending on the zone (whether it’s Indian or people in China ) 

If nothing above impress you, there’s always a triumph card. This will cost you a bit of fortune as there’s a higher chance our professionals will end up in courts and jails. Only those with brave hearts and serious desperation, hatred to get away from their partner should use this service. The service is basically to terminate the life of your partner by using all means. Our preferable method is usually the quick and easy which is shot in the forehead. But our clients who had use this (the names can’t be disclosed for privacy issues) found it too violence and ugly for their first wives, so they asked us to be more discrete in our method. So yeah, the other methods like diet poison salad, high heels with hidden poison needles, cute little teddy bear which blast laser, razer cut necklace are just some of our popular operating tools we have.

So yeah, those are some ideas to get you start with on opening hopefully to be popular Match Breaking Agency. Enjoy the breakups!!

I just stumbled a rather interesting article saying there’s this stereotype that IT people has lower EQ compared to other person say in Finance, HR and so on. Well, I have two different views on this.

First view, regardless I like it or not I was graduated from an IT college and currently working in IT company so I am pretty much an IT guy. Unlike common perception, life in IT is not always boring, actually it’s kinda entertaining. I am able to see some secretive data like financial year report, people’s salary or how some people claim to have family of 5 children where the truth they don’t have any children for the sake of cutting tax. In other hand, most of the time we are invisible. People tends to take things for granted, if everything is working fine somehow IT guy seems to be non-existent. Nerd with no-life hiding in the corner having his orgasm with a box called PC. But when some problem arises, there it is, people expect IT guy to shoot all their problems like superhero!

Somehow this is a typical stereotype of IT people in the society. Introvert, very good techically, prefer to deal with machines rather than people, geeky, nerdy, no social life,etc,etc. I admit although I am not on the extreme but most of the things mentioned above I have them in me.

The questions are: Does IT people really has low EQ? Are IT people just made to be good with machines and bad in buiding relationship with people? Or Is it the environment, the working place that made IT people behave in such a way?

Back to the article by Anthony Dio Martin (the article was written in Bahasa Indonesia), he mentioned that characteristics of IT people are (1) Uses more IQ than EQ in working (2) very little emphathy and seldom uses emotion in taking action (3) Hardly socialize with other people (4) tehnical (job) oriented rather than people

Things get worsen coz IT people tend to socialize with other IT people only. I personally feel that sometimes it’s difficult to talk with non-IT guy as I dunno how to start a topic, or the topic soons get dry. People who knows me in real life know what I mean

The interesting point is, he mentioned that people tend to not be fair with their colleagues in IT. IT guys is treated only as troubleshooter, if there’s a problem. If anything goes right, there is no appreciation. Lucky for me, my client is not that bad (yet)

The second point, IT guy seldom being involved in important decision making, only when the technical problems arise they are involved. Another point, IT guys are branded as Nerd, being left alone. Which is why he mentioned why EQ is important for IT guys nowadays. As IT becoming more and more vital to an organizaiton nowadays, IT people have access to many important areas of the organization from the company’s information, financial, employees’ personal information, etc. Imagine that if the IT guy is mischiveious and malicious, those data can be used in the wrong way. Without a good EQ, IT tends to have conflict with other parties. And also, this is also a challenge for people in IT to overcome these false stereotypes.

Enough of the stereotyping, what do you think? Do IT people has low EQ?

Although this is not the first time I saw the “love doll” video clip or picture before, but this guy is really something. As you can see from the video interview, his room is full of 26 human dolls! Freaky as it is, he treats those dolls as substitute of real girls because he said real girl cheats, tell lies and so on unlike these ermm…dead girls? Just looking at them make me imagine what if the girls come alive in the middle of the night and have revenge to the owner. Oh man…how he can tell one girl from another. I guess they feel different and taste differently?

Knowing from the clip that there’s a company who has been in this love doll market for 30 years is quite saddening that for quite a long time some people are so afraid with real interaction that they are building their own world, playing with their own toy of comfortness, avoiding responsibility of what is really happening. 

Makes me think…am I getting closer and closer to that line…?